Disclaimer
Here at accept-ability I will be calling things like I see them. So, if you don’t want to be called a dick, don’t be a dick. I’m just kidding – kinda. I’ll try not to do any name calling. I will however, share my opinion freely and it’s just that – my opinion.
This website is my perspective of things that have happened in my life and the reason I write is to express those opinions. Also, if I say “he feels” a certain way, what I’m saying is that I believe he feels that way based on his behavior, which is a normal thing to do when interacting with another person. We take cues from others to form an understanding and sometimes a judgment about the other person. Our judgements are not always spot on, because we could never actually be inside the other person’s head or live their life. We use tone, facial expression and body language to discern what the other person is trying to communicate.
Please know that I will always try to give others the benefit of the doubt. I’ll try to understand their perspective and feelings.
Now, for those of you who think I might be putting words in your mouth or not interpreting your feelings correctly when I say “he or she believes,” may need to work on trying to see yourself from the outside. Be accountable for your behavior. Period. If you’re acting like a selfish asshole, I’m going to assume that you believe your feelings are the most important feelings in the world. Try to hear your words and your tone. Try to see the nonverbal messages you’re sending to those around you. And as Oprah says “be accountable for the energy you bring into a room.”
In an effort to see every side of a situation, it’s important for me to say that I see the world through a specific lens – the lens that I grew up with. As much as we need to be accountable for the energy and behavior we’re putting out into the world, we also need to be aware of the filter through which we’re seeing the world. My filter is a self-conscious and sometimes sensitive one, so I automatically think the rest of the world is the same. I’m socially sensitive and get embarrassed easily. Unfortunately, there are also certain filters we grow up learning that can put a sharp edge on our view of things. Sometimes those filters are ones of unfair judgment and racism. I don’t believe I’m racist and like I said earlier, I’ll do my best to be unbiased and see all angles of a situation.
This disclaimer and explanation seem obvious, but unfortunately it’s necessary for the people in my life who need things laid out in black and white – you know who you are. Someone in my life likes to say to me “don’t tell me how I feel.” Well, I’m not telling you how you feel; I’m making an interpretation of how you feel. Let’s just say that every time I say those words, I’m prefacing with “it appears that you feel…” And for the record, this disclaimer supersedes all posts from here on out.
Also for the record, my opinions are not the opinions of my kids. Sorry kids, your mom has some shit to work out.
One more thing: By reading my blog, you accept these terms and conditions.